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<div id="header"> <div id="wrapper-navigation"> <div id="navigation"> <div class="nav nav-primary nav-affilo_after_header"> <div id="header"> <div id="wrapper-navigation"> <div id="navigation"> <div class="nav nav-primary nav-affilo_after_header"> <h1 style="text-align: center;">Personality Anchoring – A Guide To Finding Yourself</h1> <img src="https://media.istockphoto.com/id/1464090817/vector/illustration-of-person-holding-round-shape-mirror-illusion-absence-concept.jpg?s=612x612&w=0&k=20&c=okL6lwTUEghgFOSGkVeRnyaA71fnqBNPOkDtoXZI4sU=" alt="" width="900" /> There seems to be an awful lot of confusion about the name of this site. <blockquote> Have you ever noticed that all through your rants and self inflicted righteousness in being a real man… A know-it-all in true MANerisms… You’re actually hiding… No real name, just Alpha Persona??? Persona, although Latin does end in the letter A… And is a feminine word… So is Alpha… -Carla, from her second, unpublished wave of emails telling about how I have no chance with her and I’m a closet penis monger </blockquote> This isn’t the first time I’ve heard the “You’re just hiding behind your ‘persona’” argument, either.  I actually hear that shit all the time.  Never from my dedicated and supportive readers, mind you, as it would seem they understand the name.  No, it’s always from the anti-game white knights or some stupid woman who could only see one possibility. I never thought I would have to do this, but it seems like I need to take some time in this post to clear up a misunderstanding.  Trust me, it will put everything else in perspective. <h2>7th Grade</h2> Seventh grade was an awful time for me.  I was a low alpha with heavy beta tendencies who hung around this high alpha all through 4th, 5th, and 6th grades.  This kid was popular, funny, cool.  He was all of the things I ever wanted to be.  However, about half way through sixth grade he began talking to me about public school, saying that there were parties and drinking and lots of pretty girls at public school.  Really, it was just less restrictive than our private school and the copious amounts of attractive women could be attributed to the fact that our entire high school was half the size of the public school’s senior class. At some point during the summer he managed to convince his mom that he needed to go to public school.  I didn’t see him again until – literally – about 6 months ago (we ran into each other at a party, talked a bit, and that was it).  It was pretty devastating for me initially.  I didn’t really know what to do with myself because I soon found out that I didn’t have any real friends of my own.  I had friends by proxy, so to speak – that is, he had friends that I hung out with.  Once he left, though, I was alone. Not knowing who I was, I receded into myself.  I started to get picked on, became the low man on the totem pole.  Oddly enough, my religious affiliation made me an outcast among the popular kids (at my private, Christian academy.  Go figure). It wasn’t until I got to about eleventh grade that I really began to realize who I was:  Whoever the fuck I wanted to be.  I realized then that it simply didn’t matter what the cool kids thought of me (I have since branched this out and realized that it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks of me save my own mother).  In 11th grade I began to emulate the qualities in a man that I wanted to display.  I picked men that I admired, picked apart what I admired them for, and then began to mix and match those things together until I firmly decided what type of person I was going to be.  And then I started to emulate those things. I call it Anchoring.  It is the key behind the name of this blog. <h2>Anchoring</h2> Anchoring is a technique that I developed (I suppose it would be more of a coping mechanism) to deal with and eliminate my introverted nature. You see, after putting together qualities that I wanted to reflect to others from myself, I realized that I was compensating for a shy nature by being extremely outgoing.  I figured if I acted very outgoing and confident, no one would realize that truly I was shy and unsure of myself.  It was a façade.  An act.  A Persona. I used to love watching the Twilight Zone when I was little.  That show seemed so horrible and terrifying to me and to my little child mind it was like glue: I was stuck to it, obsessed and I wouldn’t have it any other way.  There was this one episode that I’ll always remember.  Guests are invited to an eccentric man’s party and, upon their arrival, were each given a mask.  The masks had this hideous and disfigured faces on them that the guests found repulsive.  After a while they were asked to put on their masks and not take them off for the remainder of the evening. 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The point being: if you wear a mask long enough, it becomes a part of you. You see, I’m not the one who has to put on the fake ‘persona’ anymore.  The Alpha Persona isn’t a hat I put on in the morning and then take off at night as I prepare to cry myself to sleep.  For better or worse, an Alpha Male is what I am now.  It has been so many years for me of practicing, eliminating old, bad habits, implementing good habits and characteristics and so on, that I no longer have to fake anything or put on some sort of mask – it is simply who I am.  If there is anything about myself that I desire to change now, I tweak it and practice that tweak until it works itself into my nature. That is what The Alpha Persona is really about: anchoring.  Find a personality, real or fictional, and anchor yourself to it.  It may be God, it may be a book character, or a political figure (though I hope not), it may even be me, but whatever it is you have to make sure that you begin to identify yourself with something stronger, greater, and outside of yourself.  Choose wisely something strong and powerful to emulate, pick a person (real or not) who has personality traits the line up with who you are, and emulate them.  Anchor yourself to them and emulate them at every turn. This blog, the alpha persona in general, is something I’m giving to you so that you can emulate and practice it.  Something you can take from my years of hard work, and wear until it becomes you and makes you something you want to be.  The beauty is that you can take away certain things and add others that fit you better and make it your own. Everyone tells you the importance of taking time to find yourself.  What no one tells you is that a great deal of ‘finding yourself’ is really making yourself.  I would say a small fraction is finding someone that you want to be like, and the rest of effort in “finding yourself” is molding, through hard work, your own personality into the mold you’ve chosen or made. Become whoever you want to be, and until you get there pretend you’re already who you want to be.  I don’t mean lie about accomplishments, or anything of that nature.  I mean, act as if you are already the absolute shit.  Walk into bars and parties like you’re being applauded and act like the party didn’t start until you stepped in.  Approach every girl that you like, and close her hard for the bang.  Live like you fucking mean it. Put on The Alpha Persona and become the outgoing, fun, and confident commander of your life that you were meant to be. </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div> <div id="gtx-trans" style="position: absolute; left: 443px; top: 1248.03px;"> </div>